for my own reflections.....

just how often do you complained about being treated unfairly by people around you.
from what i know.
majority of us will simply push the blame on those people who you think had treated you badly.
constantly whining about that.
thats very much an unwelcome way of doing so.
and also a very atrocious behavior to have.
and so you think that friends or family members have been giving you cold shoulders and stuffs.
you think that you did nothing wrong in the first place.
but the fact that they are treating you this way is more or less your very own doing.
just ask yourself.
what kind of character did you portray yourself to be in front of them.
how did you treat them in the first place.
just to cite some examples.
as i think i did mention before in my previous entry.
you wont feeling the best of mood and so you think you can simply vent your anger on friends or perhaps even family members.
do you think they deserved such treatment.
if so all of us can simply go and make a scathing oral or written attack against anyone.
even the government.
and when questioned on why we did that.
i'm feeling lousy or i'm feeling upset.
and thats your reply.
hey come on and get real.
only adolescent will do so man.
should you wana vent your anger or frustration on.
do it on some non-living objects or the source of the problem.
you should be glad that when you re feeling gloomy.
there s someone who is bother to even come message you.
another example.
if you dare to do or say something hurtful or damaging.
be prepared to received that too.
since you re game for it.
just open out your arms and accept it.
there s a saying.
people will respect you if you respect them.
responsible ya.
hm.

and even you even start whining about how unfair life is.
how unfair god is.
how vicious people are.
ask yourself.
why in the first place will that happened.
its more like how you treated them and so you will received what sort of treatments.
lets say for example about a non-competitive team sports game played among friends during leisure time.
peter was complaining no one wana be in the same team as him week in week out.
whining about the fact that all of them only wana be in a winning team.
perhaps that s how right.
who will wana be in a losing team.
but thats what you see on the surface.
not wanting you to be in the same team as you might be the hole which will caused the team to lose.
thats pure bullshit.
its more of the attitude and character of peter.
im pretty sure even though you re not that impressive.
friends will still wanna you in their team even though they might lose.
its more of a friendship rather than your skill.
im how sure friends wont mind losing as long as they had fun.
and to have fun you have to be in the right crowd.
stop being a pussy and whined about such stuffs.
go think about why they dont want you in their team.
alright.
thats just an example i thought of.

just that day.
i was talking to my good friend jiawen.
we were saying some friends can be really good friends.
but on their relationship side.
they are bastards/bitches.
think about it.
its how true.
but thats like not our problem you think.
right.
some guys/girls i know are sly pretender.
lets not talk about what good friend they can be.
but on how they handle relationships.
awful.
some will always talk about how pitiful they were.
how their ex left them and how upset they were and wish to reconcile back with them.
for a moment you thought.
man i feel for you. your ex sucks.
thinking that your friend is right and bashing about their ex.
but days later.
they come telling you they are in love with someone else.
and you went erm....
more like a wolf in sheep skin.
and how one tries to win someone else heart.
sweet talks flirting and stuffs.
doing those underhand tricks to gain sympathy.
thats how not cool.
cheap thrills.
perhaps thats not our problem too.
bastards and bitches.
hm.

lastly.
some people always think that people around him owes him/her.
in a way or another.
she/he think s he s always right.
claiming that thats him/her.
even if friends around him/her suggested to him he should go think about it.
they declined and saying stuffs like.
nah i wont changed. im not wrong and so why should i.
yes.
we cant possiblely asked them to change for us.
but do have the heart to go think about it at least.
if not people will just simply hate you to the core.
and thats their very own doing.
at times.
we think that certain people are very close with us.
but thats what you think.
what i mean is.
example.
mary thinks that she s very close with this group of friends.
but those friends of her detest her.
just that when they are together with her.
they pretended nothing s wrong.
go think about it.
this happen to most people.
yap.